onsdag 26 januari 2011

New perspective


It's time to write about a serious topic, one that has been on my mind for some time now. I've been thinking about if for a few days, but last night...well last night everything got a little more intense than before.

Complaining. Easy, isn't it? Whining is the slightly more negative term. It seems to work like this: Step 1. Something bothers you. Step 2. You are tired of "it" bothering you. Step 3. Your mind separates things into the simple, yet apparently efficient, categorize of black/white. Everything is either this or that. It's all based on the same thing though - that we/you/me aren't content with our everyday lives. And honestly, I don't see why people have such a hard time appreciating the small things. Why does everything have to be perfect? And if it isn't, why do we feel such an urge to focus on the first smallest thing that's negative, when we wouldn't do the same if it was something positive?

You know...the truth is that people never spend a second thinking: am I making a huge deal out of nothing, or is this aspect of life that I'm considering a problem really a problem? There are people that have to go through bigger obstacles everyday than we do, yet they focus on the positive side of life- which is what gives them energy to move on.

If you've ever gone through a difficult event, e.g the loss of someone close to you, you'll know that one of the post-traumatic experiences you gain is a new way of seeing & appreciating things. You'll realize the value of being able to walk down the stairs and grab a glass of water when you feel thirsty. You'll realize the value of being able to scratch your head when it itches, or the value of just being able to walk to the bus station, even though the bus might be a few minutes late. Basically, realizing the value of that which we have around us.

However, the most important question we have to ask ourselves is: why do we have to go through a horrible event in order to truly understand what we have? The answer? Well it's beyond me. Knowledge, maybe? Personal experience? I'm not sure...

To round things up, it's always easy to find things to complain about but it doesn't justify doing it. It's equally easy to see the world in black/white, but keep in mind that there are often more than two sides to life. For instance, there is gray...

Going to end this on a serious note though. Remember that everything comes to and end. So I don't see why we can't make the best out of the time we have and stop focusing on the seemingly insignificant negative things.

That last part sounded like it was taken directly out of a Hollywood-movie.

Photo: Arad Hosseini

5 kommentarer:

  1. I like to regard things as even simpler than black/white, just black actually. If you turn off the lights on negative things they loose all color and significance.

    Otherwise, this is how complaining works: Step 0.Have humour. Step 1.Joke about Salem Al Fakhir or whatever it is that bothers you (that's the complaining part). Step 2.Laugh, because everyone around you is laughing, assuming that you got step 1 right.

    Don't tell me you've been doing it wrong the whole time.

    SvaraRadera
  2. I think I've been doing it wrong...

    SvaraRadera
  3. Såklart har du rätt, MEN jag som är typ bäst i världen på att klaga på ungefär allt och ingenting måste bara försvara det lite med att det är mitt sätt att ta mig igenom saker. Om jag får klaga över att det är svinjobbigt att gå 5 minuter till bussen blir jag mycket stoltare när jag har gjort det = blir gladare efteråt = blir gladare & positivare i längden. Såå jag vill faktiskt påstå att det inte BARA är negativt att klaga lite (eller så är det jag som fungerar konstigt eh). Men när du kommer hit lovar jag att inte klaga nånting alls :):):)

    SvaraRadera
  4. svart/vitt tänkande kallas dikotomt tänkande http://www.stefanfransson.se/psykoterapi.asp

    du kanske borde läsa psykologi!!! ja ja ja

    SvaraRadera
  5. @Ebba haha ok det köper jag ;)

    @anonym *flashback till psykologi a* never again...

    SvaraRadera